Zoe Forsey & Sarah McGee

 

Christmas is nearly upon us, and many couples use the season to spend time together and kiss underneath the mistletoe.

However, it can also be an incredibly stressful period that might but a strain on your relationship.

According to Mirror Online , January is the busiest time of year for divorce, and many people decide to end their relationship once the festive season is over.

Sara Davidson, a relationship expert, known as The Divorce Coach, has revealed some tips and tricks that all couples need to do to ‘Christmas-proof’ their relationship.

Sara said: “It’s a sad fact that when we do spend quality time with our partners, it puts pressure on any cracks in the relationship

“January is well established as the landmark month for divorce filings to spike, with the first full working day now coined as ‘Divorce Day’ because family law firms receive so many enquiries.”

During the festive season, couples are no longer distracted by their normal routine and have more time to analyse their relationship.

“January is well established as the landmark month for divorce filings to spike, with the first full working day now coined as ‘Divorce Day’ because family law firms receive so many enquiries.”

During the festive season, couples are no longer distracted by their normal routine and have more time to analyse their relationship.

They also have to spend more time with their in-laws and tensions can rise if people don’t get along with their partner’s extended family.

Sara added: “Couples often have different expectations of the Christmas holidays too. If one sees it as a chance to put their feet up as they are not at work, and the other is left to entertain the kids or cook for everyone, it can cause arguments.

“On top of all that it’s the season for parties and drinking and if your relationship is already on the rocks, it can sadly be a trigger for infidelity.

“All these festive period pressures can reach a crescendo, what I call a switch-flicking moment when something tips the balance and you decide you just can’t do this anymore.”

However, Sara has shared seven tips couples can follow if they want to ‘Christmas-proof’ their relationship and avoid becoming another lawyer’s client on ‘Divorce day’.

Don’t let problems fester

Small issues can develop into more serious problems. Therefore, if you have any issues, raise them with your partner early before it causes any irreparable damage to your relationship.

Plan your time

Make a plan about how you plan to spend your time in the holidays, so there are no arguments or conflicting arrangements.

Make a budget

Decide how much you’re going to spend on presents, social events, etc. Financial problems could lead to unnecessary arguments

Keep in high spirits.

Christmas is meant to be an exciting time of year, so try not to get stressed and angry.

Get along with the in-laws

Even if you don’t get along, try and spend some time with extended family.

However, if meeting them causes you unnecessary stress then keep visits short and to a minumum.

 Be affectionate

Your to-do list is likely to be lengthy this festive season, but don’t let this interfere with your relationship. Be affectionate and loving to your partner, making time to do the things you love.

Have fun

Don’t take things too seriously over Christmas. Try not to start arguments over trivial things and diffuse any that start to surface. Quell the tension by giving your partner a hug or reminding them that you love them.

For more information and to learn more about Sara’s work visit   www.saradavison.com

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