We run our lives by the script and the stories we tell our-self. These deep, well-worn stories with all the dreams, dramas, and upsets of your daily life, were embedded when you were very young; they’ve become part of you. And come from stories you were told of your past. From your parents, guardians, teachers, personal experiences, and anyone who influenced you all played a part in crafting the scripts that created your stories. And, each of these stories has a role to play, defining moments, snapshots in what you think you can be, do or have?
And, many of these stories are out of date, invalid and no longer true. But some people hang on to them, like a well-worn clock ticking away in the background. They become used to their story; they attach meaning and relevance to them. But, in reality, it creates an unconscious image of who they think they are and limits and restricts their thinking and ability to create and reinvent their future.
As adults, we repeat our stories to our-self via our self-talk. They are acted out in our heads. These limiting beliefs and negative self-talk take centre stage, creating emotional highs and lows worthy of any ‘Hollywood blockbuster performance.’
It may only take a passing comment from someone to raise the curtain for this performance to start. You know, the one made by your mother or father, the school bully who made your life hell, and let’s not forget the rejection you felt when your first true love was stolen from you by your best friend.
Of course, this romance can also be of the positive kind, remembering your mother hugging you and telling you it will ok. Having the courage and belief to stand up to the bully and discovering that your first true love was, in fact, not love at all and a lucky escape!