What is Self-Confidence – and Why Is It Important?
Self-confidence is understanding that you trust your own judgment and abilities and that you value yourself and feel worthy, regardless of any imperfections or of what others may believe about you.
Have you ever felt you lacked the confidence to achieve something?
Do you ever feel?
You are stuck and lacking in confidence to move on with your life?
You suffer from self-doubt and are constantly in a state of worry?
You are overwhelmed and don’t have someone to talk about your motivation, goals, and dreams?
You are ready to make changes but don’t have anyone to support you?
Has self-doubt ever crept into an area of your life you wanted to change? But you lacked the confidence to do anything about it. Well, It certainly did for me, and I’m sure it has for you.
Life is never a straight line; how boring would that be? We all have good and bad days with all the surprises and upsets it can bring. And, having the confidence to deal with them can be challenging.
So, where do we get the confidence to deal with these daily issues? Well is created from within us. It is not something you go down to the shop and buy.
Being confident is having a belief in yourself. It’s about trusting that no matter what happens in any situation, you can handle, learn and grow from it. Which over time, boosts your confidence.
For instance, if you drive, think back to that your very first driving lesson, How confidence was you about driving?
But, as you progressed with more and more lessons, your confidence grew, and now having passed your test, I’m sure you would say you are a confident driver.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when we see ourselves (and others like us) mastering skills and achieving goals. This encourages us to believe that, if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we’ll succeed. It’s this type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges and to keep going in the face of setbacks.
It’s like flexing your confidence muscle in that area of your life, the more you work at it, the stronger and easier it becomes.
I remember when I enrolled for my coaching diploma with the coaching academy, and this box arrived. I opened it and inside were these huge ring binders staring at me with all the different modules in them,
I got so overwhelmed that I quickly closed the box again and entered into the “self-doubt fixed mindset belief” and ranted “I don’t have the confidence to do it, I’m not smart enough to complete this”. And went off in a huff!
The breakthrough for me came when I was telling my coach this (yes coaches have coaches) she said to me “I want you to repeat what you just said. So, I repeated.
“I don’t have the confidence to do it; I’m not smart enough to complete this, I’ll never pass the exam”. With that, my coach shouted out “YET”!
I was stunned into silence. Suddenly it became clear how I was self-sabotaging my-self. Putting that one word at the end of my ‘rant’ changed my whole attitude and was the driving force behind completing my diploma. Now, whenever I have self-doubt moment, I chuckle to my-self “I’m not smart enough to complete this, yet”.
Whether we are aware of it or not, we all keep a running account and score of what’s happening to us. Our minds are constantly monitoring and interpreting what it means, and what we should do in any situation, and that can have an impact on our confidence positively or negatively.
Why Self-Confidence Matters
You can show self-confidence in many ways: in your behaviour, your body language, and in what you say and how you say it.
Projecting a positive image to others can help you to improve your self-confidence. It’s not merely a matter of “faking it.” If you project yourself with confidence, others are more likely to respond well, and this positive feedback will help you to believe in yourself, it’s the flexing that confidence muscle.
As I have said, confidence comes from within and shows up in your body language, how you smile, stand, and talk all help in building the confidence muscle. If you are giving a talk or presentation, I always encourage my clients to video themselves on their phone you want to see what your audience and clients see.
Building confidence takes time; good habits are achieved one tiny step at a time (and break bad ones). Being aware of what makes you feel good will boost your confidence, a visit to the hairdresser, a new dress or suit can do wonders in building your muscle. Take time to look in the mirror and love, respect, and admire that person, reflecting back with affirmations and compliments.
Ultimately you are your shop window on the world; what you put in the window and how you display yourself is up to you. Do you want people to stop and notice or walk on by?
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