The art of conversation or lack of it!
Small talk-small outcome. When we engage with someone maybe at a networking event, it’s very easy to roll out our default setting polite social script. We use the same dull, even boring (but nobody would dare whisper that in your ear) conversation starters over and over again because they are in our comfort zone, and wonder why we get little reward or comfort for our dull efforts. No surprise there!
Time to get off that comfortable sofa, stuff the polite script behind the cushions and get a little vulnerable with the other person, if you’re looking to become friends.
Try conversation starters like these for style and fit;
- What was the highlight of your day?
- Have you anything exciting coming up?
- What’s your story?
- What brings you here?
- When you’re not working what do you do to relax?
- A compliment on what they are wearing
Remember we need to find some common interests to take the conversation to a deeper level to create a spark, an ‘Aha’ moment, that creates emotion and a feeling of connection in both of you. You may not have shared the same interests but you have experienced the same emotions. Emotions show we are human, that we are vulnerable and not perfect just like everyone else.
Don’t forget your body language cues;
- Firm handshake
- Make eye contact 60-70%Smile
- Open palm hand gestures
- Nodding your head in agreement to show your interest
- Facing towards them
- Voice and tone